Be You

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I think a lot of us struggle these days with staying true to ourselves. We’re finding it difficult in the midst of a lot of influence from Television, Social Media, Community, Peers, Family and even your Work Environment. I don’t know about you but I don’t feel we should be making excuses for who we are, If you are happy about the person you are then so be it.

In my opinion, I think that God is the one person who we should look to for validation. God has settled it long before you were born that he LOVES you beyond your wildest imagination. If I am at liberty to say. God loved you so much that he didn’t even hold back his only son so that you may be saved and have life in its fullness and even more because God’s grace is abundent. God loves you so much that he made you in his image. Imagine that! Each and every one of us in his own image , each and every good gift in you and I is from God. How awesome is HE if we are all a reflection of God.

The world or people may reject you, but God has ACCEPTED you and that’s more than enough.


Ok so my point?

I want you to BE YOU! To be you on your terms, the way God wants it to be. God’s WILL be done!! Choose to BE YOURSELF instead of what you think everyone else is ok with or happy for you to be.  Set YOURself free, free from everyone, free from what everyone has said about you, set yourself  free from yourself even.

Set yourself  free from the expectations of your family, your friends, your colleagues and more so from the expectations of people who don’t even know you. From the expections of people who don’t know where you have been, where you are coming from, what you have gone through and where you are going. Free from people who dont understand your vision and purpose God has for your life and the work he is doing in and through your life.


After this…

I want you to LIVE!  To live knowing that you can be, do and achieve all that you want to and that you can do it YOUR way.

I want you to be unapologetic about it.

I want you to know that it’s ok to make mistakes, but I also want you to learn from them.


The imperfections of a man, his frailties, his fualts are just as important  as his virtues. You can’t separate them. They’re wedded” -Henry Miller


I want you to be understanding and to realise that you are different, I also want you to be OK with it too.

I want you to express yourself, I want you to be kind with your words.

I want you to speak your mind.


“To say the very things you really mean, the whole of it, nothing more or less, that’s the whole art and joy of words” – CS Lewis.


I want you to know that you should love yourself more than any man or women ever will or can.

I want you to be yourself even when you feel inadequate, even when you don’t think it’s cool, or enough.

I want you to be satisfied with who yourself, I want you to be whole, to be complete.


I want you to BE YOU.


It’s ok to think differently 

I’ve been privileged enough for the past year to be able to hang around some really cool and dynamic entrepreneurs & one the things that really sticks out from that is how we challenge each other to think differently ALL the time. They do say after all the height of insanity is to do the same thing and to expect a different result. 

This morning I saw this picture on Instagram and I thought wow so true but in the comments section someone clearly took offense and said that it’s not cool to decide what people’s priorities should be in life. 

Now I always have an opinion when it comes to ‘priorities’.

So my response to that king of went something like this:

“I think and let me say again, I ‘think’ that sometimes we put the cart before the horse. Whilst we want different things in life there is a certain priority that we need to give to certain things. The things that you yourself want not what others think is good or not good. If we had to be honest with ourselves sometimes we don’t give priority in the right places. For example one day I saw a BMW parked outside an RDP house. To ‘ME’ that didn’t look right, it just didn’t but maybe that’s what’s important to that chap, maybe, I wonder if it really is. I wonder. However no one is here to judge and tell people how to live. 

My last point, sometimes you see something, a picture such as this and makes you think, in a way you haven’t before, or you see something on TV that makes you think. Sometimes it’s good to be challenged to think differently. Sometimes there is no wrong or right way, just a different way. We must always be open to that.”

So my fiancé and I started a Vlog on YouTube. We’re going to be doing a series of topics titled “Between us”.

What will be talking about? It’s just random topics that we debate amongst ourselves and our peers that are either current affairs or opinion subjects. We’ll totally be sharing our perspective and not trying to be politically correct or on any moral high ground.

Hope you enjoy it. Check out first video on the link below.


I have this dream…

The freedom to wake up and do what YOU want to do is so much better than ALL the money in the world. What’s money without Time and Freedom anyway

I have this dream.

Lately I have come to realise that the most important thing to me is my family. The amount of time that I can spend with them should be a reflection of that shouldn’t it? However we find ourselves in this rat race and clinbing the corporate ladders and many other ladders in life to be fair and true. How often though do we get to the top oreven half way and realise that we are on the wrong ladder? Am I the only one who has paused to ask themselves these questions or do you feel like that too? 

I hoped I would have figured these things out by now or am I being to hard on myself? I often wonder. 

I have this dream to be free.

My dear friends, teach yourselves, teach your children…

holding-child-handMy dear friends, confidence is very important. Don’t always second guess yourself. People may find fault in the things that you do and they may well be right and that’s ok.
Life is a learning experience if anything at all. Realizing that you are wrong can be a very daunting experience for many. Saying you are sorry afterwards can be even worse to most but it’s one of those things you have to put in your vocabulary in order to live a stress free life.
Even St Paul in the times of old, if you know the bible, went around persecuting believers in Christ. He was wrong but and he didn’t know it. God used him in an amazing way to reach out to those who were lost and non believers. He wrote most of the New Testament. I think God chose him because of his unwavering determination and confidence.
Perspective is just that, perspective. You will always be right until someone makes you see differently.
Teach your kids to be confident and to do everything in their resolve to fight for the things that they believe in always. Teach them also to accept it when they discover that they are wrong. Teach them to be curious. Teach them the word “sorry”. Teach them to be kind to people.
Teach yourselves. Teach your children.

Praise You In The Storm – Casting Crowns

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I was sure by now,

God you would have reached down and wiped our tears away stepped in and saved the day. But once again,

I say Amen and its still raining.

And as the thunder rolls,

I barely hear you whisper through the rain,

I’m with you.

And as your mercy falls,

I raise my hands and praise the God who gives and takes away.

I will praise you in the storm, though my heart is torn.

You are who you are no matter where I am!


Heart to Heart 


A very good friend of mine once tought me that, usually things which are man made, are designed to be simple and easy to use. Meaning that when they make it, they consider the fact that it should be less of a hassle to use it otherwise it’s not really going to be a popular thing to have really.

What we were actually talking about is how sometimes we apply so much pressure and force to things or situations that isn’t really necessary. Simply put, if a thing is difficult or hard to use or do, then you are probably, just maybe doing it wrong. Don’t yank it or force it, just figure out the right way of using or doing a thing. A lot of the time we don’t want to do things the easy way, which is to ask or read the manual because it will make us look dumb or stupid.

I see it a lot, a lot!! Where people waste so much time and effort on things unnecessarily because they don’t want to talk about the relevant things and to ask the right questions. We can be so afraid of feedback sometimes hey?  We don’t ask because we may actually get an answer right? One we won’t like or aren’t prepared to hear. For one I can’t seem to understand why people would be in a 3 year relationship that most probably would have ended 2 years ago if people had a heart to heart OR maybe not depending on how the heart to heart had gone 💭.

Rather than to do the easy thing of talking openly, some would rather postpone the inevitable. Or maybe ignorance is bliss? However you before you take out your pangas and pitch forks and start chanting “burn him”, I am aware of the fact that things don’t always turn out the way we want them to or that people change and 3 years down the line we may not want the samethings anymore. That would be a very fair comment, that would also be a fair conversation to have with someone. However it wouldn’t be if you knew that from the get go and you didn’t tell the other person, don’t you think?

While there is no manual to relationships or love and that kind of thing, I do believe that being open and honest with someone you say you care about is the best shot that you can give it without a doubt in my mind. Have that heart to heart without being hurtful intentionally! There isn’t a person that I think would hate you because you told them your true feelings about them or to them.

Anyway that’s just my two cents about that. Just be geniune hey, about yourself, your intentions,  what you want and don’t want with people. Be fair , give things a fair shot. It’s ok if things don’t work out all the time, in life generally.